Most people live life on the path we set for them, too afraid to explore any other. But once in a while people like you come along who knock down all the obstacles we put in your way. People who realize freewill is a gift that you'll never know how to use until you fight for it. I think that's the chairman's real plan. That maybe one day, we won't write the plan, you will.
Adjustment Bureau, last quote
We drove to Salem, Virginia this past weekend.
My husband's first nephew, Jeffy was getting married.
Jeffy who I first remember being
that little kid who would come and visit when
Big Daddy and I were first dating.
We'd throw him in the back of my red Honda CRX two seater and
we'd drive around doing "cool" things and it seemed anything
Big Daddy did was cool. It seemed Jeffy appreciated Big Daddy's off color humor in a way that not many others did.
They adored each other and I came to adore Jeffy as much as Big Daddy did and does.
He was 11 when I first met him and I felt myself
well with pride as he thanked everyone at their "rehearsal party".
He has grown into a burly man with a beard and a smile
that never faded from his face.
He has had his fair share of relationships---seems for the past few
Off Color Christmas Party's--Jeffy has had "The ONE" with him and then the next Christmas Party---"the one" was replaced with "this one".
Around Valentines day (which by the way Jeffy was when Big Daddy asked me), he acknowledged his love for his "girl" before her parents and his parents. It seems "M" had captured his heart.
"M" and Jeffy met when he was coaching a kids baseball team, rumor has it her son played on another team.
So this weekend, Big Daddy and the whole off color family--extended family even---gathered for a Big Celebration.
I've never ever seen, Jeffy more happy. He beamed and
throughout the entire day, I watched him and when I watched him, I'd find myself beaming just a bit as well.
Every time he looked at his "girl", his eyes would well up and
the happiness he felt in his heart
was all over his face---I swear I think I saw a glimmer of Joy---every time I looked at him.
As they danced to "your just too good to be true" at the rehearsal party held at the local museum, it appeared that the world stopped for just a few minutes and it revolved around both of them and love wove around and in between and through them.
Watching them was like a glimmer into what
Lady GaGa would say was, "right on the edge of glory."
We really haven't met his new family other than through quick introductions. His lady seems to be strong, outgoing and full of love. She beams when she looks at both of her boys, her little one and her big one....and let me tell you "M"...you might not know this yet...but if Jeffy is anything like Big Daddy and I know he is...
well you've got yourself someone who loves to laugh and have fun and some days...it just might feel like the boys will outnumber you in more ways than one.
We enjoyed being part of your celebration
and
while it may have appeared we left a bit early at each
event--I'm sure Jeffy will share part of our story with you
and
I'm sure you'll understand why we usually disappear a bit early at parties.
Off Color Aunt said it well at your rehearsal party---a museum was the perfect place to celebrate your love---because
all three of you are making history.
My prayer for the three of you is
that
you will always love each other
enough to do the hard work that it takes
to have a strong marriage
talk often,
disagree when necessary,
give each other grace
and
realize
that none of us
can change our genetic make-up
our personality
or
much about the way we look.
May you have patience to listen---even when you don't want to---
and
mercy enough to forgive
and
humility enough to admit when you are wrong and apologize
then
may everything you do as a family
always be under girded by
the love that
flows from the source of our creation.
M and son
we are thrilled to have you as part of our family.
Jeffy--now you will be privy to
off color big Daddy's anniversary card antics---you've got lots to look forward to...
On the way down,
Big Daddy started telling me about
an interview he saw with Matthew McConaughey
about his wedding day...
Jeffy
as I watched your eyes well and your heart jump up into your throat
when "your girl" walked down the aisle...
well i couldn't help but think about what Big Daddy told me,
it went something like....
“The silence before she came out, 42 years of history ran through my veins… and then I thought of her. Twenty-nine years, a young lady’s dream to marry whomever that may be, the most important moment in the fairy tale, and tonight, right now, I am that man for her, for the first time and forever.”
As I watched you, I felt my own tears well up as I held Big Daddy's hand
and
I wished for you...
a love the way I felt for Big Daddy, but there was no doubt
in my mind what you felt when I looked at you---
you'd found the one for you...
and
we couldn't be more thrilled for all three of you.
Big Daddy,
I am most thankful
for that most important moment
in my fairy tale,
for that night
you were the man for me
and
almost twenty years later...
guess what
you are still that guy for me...
from that first moment I met you at
the gas station and you sang over the microphone
until now...
two off color children later
You are still
and
always well
be...
"that guy"
My guy!!!
always and forever and then some more....
Happy Day to the newlyweds
may you love each other
always and forever...
and
Jeffy..
guess what
it might be too good to be true....but it isn't.....
glad you found her and can't wait
to initiate her into our off color world.
Happy Monday...
and
hugs...
The radical rambler...
