Thursday, January 12, 2012

don't pee in my cornflakes.....


 “How we feel about ourselves, the joy we get from living, ultimately depends directly on how the mind filters and interprets everyday experiences. Whether we are happy depends on inner harmony, not on the controls we are able to exert over the great forces of the universe.”
– Mihaly Csikszentmihaly

As the New Year begins again, we all set out to live life in a different manner.  Some of us expect to lose those pounds that have built up over the years.  Others plan to become healthier by quitting habits that are not good for us--like smoking, coffee, drugs, alcohol. I myself decided that this would be the year I really tried to appreciate the things around me.  I vowed--I will not let the little things bother me.  I will stop and smell the flowers, let the rain fall on my face and watch the world for signs of hope and love and grace. 
Some days I almost succeed.  Other days, like all the days this week, I have allowed circumstances beyond my control to have an effect on my
outlook on life and guess what---I allowed it to happen.
For a fraction of a moment--which is all it take--I glanced from positive to negative,
from contentment to dis-something.  I allowed my expectations to color my outlook on life.
Why you might ask?
Good question.
I get busy.
I get all wrapped up in my little world and my plans
and when someone interrupts---
well
it is as if they actually took a moment when I wasn't looking and someone or something
peed in my cornflakes---truth is----only we have control of our own cornflake bowl.
The past few weeks have been difficult for me.
Difficult in terms of being busy,
difficult in that circumstances beyond my control
have played havoc on my emotions allowing worry to sneak into my pretty little world.
Work--well new year comes---so has everyone else and they have showed up in my office playing havoc on my ability to control the flow or my day.
Ah...control....
see when I lose control
or
can't control
that's when I start to see the pee in my cornflake bowl.
Perhaps...
just perhaps...
if I would learn to go with the flow a bit more,
let go of the ropes that try to keep everything in line,
allow life to unfold and experience it
one day
one moment
one second at a time
and
live it on my own terms of choosing happiness
and
peace
and
calmness..
then
maybe
today
will be
a
day
free of pee.

let's hope so anyway...
I will try
how about you.

blessings















2 Comments:

At January 16, 2012 at 9:00 PM , Anonymous Anne said...

Pam! LOLOLOL!!! I absolutely love the title and the analogy throughout your post. And I love the bit of wisdom in the beginning of the passage. It is just perfect.
I hope no one's peeing into your cornflake bowl now. Things seem to have a way of happening...things that clash with our expectation of that "pretty life" you talk about. It's the hardest thing for me too...to let my cornflake bowl be free. In my case, expecting an outcome or any semblance of drama free existence is reason enough to spoil things. It's a guarantee that things won't go according to plan. So now, I wait to be shown, and am thankful for things going right. Sometimes it feels like I'm lowering some personal standards. In other moments, the relief is enormous.
Ofcourse, there are things that just cannot be iffy. I resent the pee in those cases. And hope it'll pass.
Hugs, hope things sort themselves out and that you're okay.

 
At January 17, 2012 at 4:34 AM , Blogger pleemiller said...

Anne--it did pass! Thank goodness!
What I realized was that as always--it was my expectations of others that gave me the illusion that someone else had invaded my unique bowl. Happy day to you.

 

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